Here we are a several weeks into Summer 2012, and I have a few things to discuss:
I saw a couple of straight guys (I think they were Middle Eastern) out by the pool sunbathing. One of the guys had his long board shorts pulled all the way up so he could get a tan. If he was wearing Speedos, he wouldn’t have to do something so ridiculous. But because of social pressure, and fear of being seen as gay or different, he decided to do what he did.
I was at a gay event the other day at Dockweiler Beach in Los Angeles. This was the annual “At the Beach” Black Gay Pride event. It was a decent event, not as crowded as past years. One of the things I found interesting was people having layers of clothing. One beautiful black man that had 3 layers on: walking shorts, square-cut swimsuit and then a skimpier suit underneath (which he didn’t even walk around in). He wore the square cut for most the day, but pulled on the board shorts to go to the bathroom. Almost the same thing for a cute white boy. Board shorts with Speedos on underneath which he wore only on his towel. When he went to walk around, he pulled the board shorts back on. C’mon guys! If you got it, show it. After the kilt came off, I had on Speedos till I left — I walked around the beach in them, to the bathroom, and the car even. This is what a real man would do. He is not afraid to show some skin and be seen as sexy.
I go to the gym on a regular. LA Fitness, which used to be Bally’s Total Fitness. Twice now I have been asked in the jacuzzi by a rather large gentlemen if I was married, or had a girlfriend. Each time I have replied that I was single. I am not closeted in the least, but at the time, I felt it was not the time or place to get into it with the guy. Here I am a fit, 40ish white boy with a nipple ring and a Mohawk… I don’t know what he is trying to get at. After he asked me last time, I was getting ready to get out of the jacuzzi, when a straight couple sat down. The woman said “I bet you get a lot of girls with that haircut.” I laughed and said “Not really.” I have thought about it some, and if I am asked again I will tell the truth. There were 6-10 people around at both times, so if it happens I will be coming out to a group. I am a proud gay man, and sometimes people need to be reminded that we exist, and that you can’t just assume that everyone is heterosexual.