With all the amazing advances in the LGBT movement the past couple of years, I was wondering what the future will look like. Do you think we will ever live in a world where your sexuality didn’t matter? It’s an interesting question to ponder.
So when you are growing up and you went to the prom, you could show up with a guy or a girl as your date and no one would bat an eye or call you out for being different. And maybe your could win as favorite couple as guy-guy or girl-girl, and then have your pics in the school newspaper and be celebrated as a cool couple, not just the cool gay couple or the cute straight couple.
A world where your sexuality was no longer assumed to be straight. For myself, and other guys my age, we can attest to this one. I was at the gym a few years back, and one woman commented on my haircut — I had a mohawk at the time. She said something along the lines of “Bet the girls love you with that haircut.” I just agreed with her… when I felt like “How dare you assume that I am straight?” In this world I am describing the woman would instead say, “Bet your partners love you with that haircut.”
You hear more and more young LGBT people say they were never in the closet. That is fantastic. I hope that we come to live in a world where people can just be — be the amazing people they were destined to be without any preconceived notions about who they should or should not be dating/sleeping/living with.
To live in a world where you didn’t have to change pronouns for who you were dating — be it with your family, friends, coworkers, etc. I am lucky such that when I got married my husband, my friends from work threw me a big wedding shower. And at the ceremony I had family members and friends there.
I look forward to a world where your sexuality doesn’t matter. In this political climate, let’s keep fighting for that to happen.
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Here we are a several weeks into Summer 2012, and I have a few things to discuss:
I saw a couple of straight guys (I think they were Middle Eastern) out by the pool sunbathing. One of the guys had his long board shorts pulled all the way up so he could get a tan. If he was wearing Speedos, he wouldn’t have to do something so ridiculous. But because of social pressure, and fear of being seen as gay or different, he decided to do what he did.
I was at a gay event the other day at Dockweiler Beach in Los Angeles. This was the annual “At the Beach” Black Gay Pride event. It was a decent event, not as crowded as past years. One of the things I found interesting was people having layers of clothing. One beautiful black man that had 3 layers on: walking shorts, square-cut swimsuit and then a skimpier suit underneath (which he didn’t even walk around in). He wore the square cut for most the day, but pulled on the board shorts to go to the bathroom. Almost the same thing for a cute white boy. Board shorts with Speedos on underneath which he wore only on his towel. When he went to walk around, he pulled the board shorts back on. C’mon guys! If you got it, show it. After the kilt came off, I had on Speedos till I left — I walked around the beach in them, to the bathroom, and the car even. This is what a real man would do. He is not afraid to show some skin and be seen as sexy.
I go to the gym on a regular. LA Fitness, which used to be Bally’s Total Fitness. Twice now I have been asked in the jacuzzi by a rather large gentlemen if I was married, or had a girlfriend. Each time I have replied that I was single. I am not closeted in the least, but at the time, I felt it was not the time or place to get into it with the guy. Here I am a fit, 40ish white boy with a nipple ring and a Mohawk… I don’t know what he is trying to get at. After he asked me last time, I was getting ready to get out of the jacuzzi, when a straight couple sat down. The woman said “I bet you get a lot of girls with that haircut.” I laughed and said “Not really.” I have thought about it some, and if I am asked again I will tell the truth. There were 6-10 people around at both times, so if it happens I will be coming out to a group. I am a proud gay man, and sometimes people need to be reminded that we exist, and that you can’t just assume that everyone is heterosexual.
This week marks the one-year anniversary for this blog! Thanks to everyone who read, looked at, commented on, or reblogged one of my posts. It has been a wonderful journey. It was nice to know that I could be creative in more than one area in my life. The year has flown by, and I hope to keep everyone interested and entertained for many years to come. Here are some of the highlights from this past year:
Real Men Wear Speedos — I will never live this one down. And why should I? I still feel the same way. Guys look good in them, and men shouldn’t be afraid to show off their bodies if they are in good shape. I am looking forward to wearing mine to a water park this summer. Anyone with me?
Letting Go of the Past — Sure, I can do fun topics. But this one also struck a chord with the community. Everyone can relate to hanging on to things (and people) and that sometimes it is best to just let go. Letting go allows us to grow as individuals.
Seeing this has been my most popular blog post, I am revisiting the topic.
I wanted to mention a few things I saw on the internet regarding this issue:
First, I saw a posting on a message board from this guy who was considering wearing Speedos when he went on vacation toEurope. He was basically asking people for permission to wear them. I say, if you are feeling like doing it, just do it. Who cares what other people think? It is your vacation and you should not conform to what other people think is best for you to do. Like Madonna says “Poor is the man, who pleasure depends on the permission of another.”
I also saw on another message board about someone having a cousin visit from Brazil and going to a water park. The question was shouldI let my cousin wear Speedos at the water park? There were people quoting the park regulations and such saying there were no rules against it. Some people saying to buy the cousin some board shorts, others saying let him decide for himself. Others saying under no circumstance should he wear Speedos that they were too “showy.” Again, let the cousin decide. If you love and accept him as family, it will not matter what he decides to wear.