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Breaking Stereotypes

People love to judge other people. People often do judge a book by its cover. I am currently reading the Steve Jobs bio, and he was quite a man. How else can you explain, a hippie who smells bad, with scruffy looks and bare feet being able to win people over? That was one of the early stories I remember from the book. He had great ideas and that showed through.

According to the dictionary, a stereotype is an idea, trait, convention, etc, that has grown stale through fixed usage; a set of inaccurate, simplistic generalizations about a group that allows others to categorize them and treat them accordingly.

Examples of common stereotypes are “Football players are stupid” or “All gay men are effeminate.”

I try to do my best to break down stereotypes. To show people the real me, someone who is complex, and has different facets to his personality. Here is why I feel that I am blazing a trail in my corner of the world.

  1. I pray. Yes, I am a gay man. But God is important in my life, and I pray too. One does not exclude the other, but so many people seem to think that it does. My spirituality does not oppress others — people have a right to be who they want to be, and love who they want to be.
  2. I am a man. And I enjoy being one. Just cause I am gay doesn’t mean I want to become a woman, wear a dress or be meek and timid.
  3. I question the norms. Who’s to say a man in less masculine because he wears a kilt? I enjoy wearing them and get a lot of compliments on them. Women are often compelled to talk to me. Straight men like the cool colors and patterns on them.
  4. I am in a long-term relationship. There are more of us out there than you think. When I tell people how long my partner and I have been together, they are shocked and happy for us.
  5. I am in an interracial relationship. I never went looking for a partner of a different race, he was just someone I clicked with. I am not his sugar daddy, and neither is he mine. We are equals, and contemporaries.
  6. I am a home body. Neither one of us is a big club or bar person. We would rather stay at home watch videos and scrapbook too. How boring and normal is that?
  7. I am creative. I am not a hair dresser, actor, flight attendant, florist or any other supposedly gay occupation. If I went by our friends, the most common occupation would be teacher. I am a graphic designer, not an interior decorator.

What stereotypes do you break? I would love to hear from you.

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Blended Spirituality

This is a term I am hearing more and more of these days. Are we evolving as spiritual beings, and appreciating that there can be more than one right answer? I certainly hope so.

I was born and raised a Catholic. I went to Catholic school for 13 years. My faith has been important in my life. When I first cam out, my Mom seemed more concerned with me still being Catholic, than she was of me being gay.Spirituality Does Not Oppress

In adulthood, I have gone to various churches: Metropolitan Community Church, Unity Fellowship, Church of Religious Science, Lutheran and other Christian churches. I even tried out a new church in the Valley recently: Freedom Church. It is an offshoot of Foursquare, with an indie/rock vibe. But the community that has resonated with me the best has been St. Monica Catholic Community in Santa Monica, California. It is a very welcoming, gay-friendly parish and I know that I have made some lifelong friends there.

Besides St. Monica, one of the places we go to on a regular basis now is Agape International Spiritual Center. This is the church founded by the Rev. Dr. Michael Bernard Beckwith. He was one of the featured teachers in “The Secret” video. It is a new-thought ancient wisdom place of worship. They have spiritual readings from many sources, including the Bible. They appreciate the teachings of Jesus, but they are not Bible thumpers in the least. It is more about connecting with the universe, community and becoming the best person you can be. The message is there to lift you up, inspire you and make us better individuals.


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