People love to judge other people. People often do judge a book by its cover. I am currently reading the Steve Jobs bio, and he was quite a man. How else can you explain, a hippie who smells bad, with scruffy looks and bare feet being able to win people over? That was one of the early stories I remember from the book. He had great ideas and that showed through.
According to the dictionary, a stereotype is an idea, trait, convention, etc, that has grown stale through fixed usage; a set of inaccurate, simplistic generalizations about a group that allows others to categorize them and treat them accordingly.
Examples of common stereotypes are “Football players are stupid” or “All gay men are effeminate.”
I try to do my best to break down stereotypes. To show people the real me, someone who is complex, and has different facets to his personality. Here is why I feel that I am blazing a trail in my corner of the world.
- I pray. Yes, I am a gay man. But God is important in my life, and I pray too. One does not exclude the other, but so many people seem to think that it does. My spirituality does not oppress others — people have a right to be who they want to be, and love who they want to be.
- I am a man. And I enjoy being one. Just cause I am gay doesn’t mean I want to become a woman, wear a dress or be meek and timid.
- I question the norms. Who’s to say a man in less masculine because he wears a kilt? I enjoy wearing them and get a lot of compliments on them. Women are often compelled to talk to me. Straight men like the cool colors and patterns on them.
- I am in a long-term relationship. There are more of us out there than you think. When I tell people how long my partner and I have been together, they are shocked and happy for us.
- I am in an interracial relationship. I never went looking for a partner of a different race, he was just someone I clicked with. I am not his sugar daddy, and neither is he mine. We are equals, and contemporaries.
- I am a home body. Neither one of us is a big club or bar person. We would rather stay at home watch videos and scrapbook too. How boring and normal is that?
- I am creative. I am not a hair dresser, actor, flight attendant, florist or any other supposedly gay occupation. If I went by our friends, the most common occupation would be teacher. I am a graphic designer, not an interior decorator.
What stereotypes do you break? I would love to hear from you.
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