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Five Items I Would Save First

Recently I read an article that talked about items that were important to this one particular individual. We get attached to things, for sure. We associate feelings and memories to them. When I thought about what I would save in a emergency first, other than people and pets, it would be a computer and photo albums. But what if you could only save 5 items, and not 5 boxes of stuff? So here is my list of the 5 items I would want to save and why:Fire

  1. Winnie the Pooh
    This was one of my childhood toys. I remember the Christmas I got him, and I was jumping for joy when I opened the package. He still looks pretty good. He reminds me of childhood innocence and family gatherings for the holidays. He always has unconditional love for me, not matter what I am going through.
  1. My Painting
    In college, I majored in art. I am lucky enough to say I am working in the field I got my degree in, which is Graphic Design. One of my classes, was Color. I did a great acrylic painting for this class and named it “Order & Chaos”. I even got chosen to be in a student art show with it. Now, it is proudly displayed in the entry way of my home.
  2. Picture of us from when we first started dating
    My lover and I have been together for over 25 years. His name is Rasheed and we met about 30 years ago at a gay youth group. He were more aquaintances at first, and had some mutual friends. But we hit it off, and have never looked back. We are getting married this year. We took a pic when we first started dating, we both look like kids… which we were! I remember all the fun times we have had over the years, and how lucky I am to have him.
  3. Madonna Blonde Ambition VHS tape
    Madonna is my favorite singer of all time. She means so much to me. I love her for her artistry, song-writing, dancing and performance skills. Plus I love that she stands up for what she believes in, and marches to the beat of her own drum. One of her early tour masterpieces, this concert is not available on DVD…. And may never be. It was on HBO, and I taped it to VHS. It was on Laser Disc… but that is a dead format. She inspires me to be true to myself.
  4. Black Kilt
    And lastly, I would save my black Utilikilt. Why that one? Why, that was the one that started it all. I liked how it looked and finally ordered one from the internet. Little did I know I would connect with it like I did. Here was a garment, that looked cool, and made me feel good when I wore it. I felt that I could be the real me…. Edgy, fun , funky, creative. I have had so many great times when wearing it: concerts, parties, parades, and much, much more.

So that’s my list of the five items I would save from my home in an emergency. What items would you save and why? I would love to hear from you.

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Blast from the Past

What moments of your life would you like to relive again? I have had this topic for a while. But I finally feel like I can take it on. Maybe relive is not the right word here…. Imagine a personal DVR where you could replay moments from your past — to see yourself as well as the people, places and things that made those moments special (or at least something you wanted to revisit).Blast from the Past

So in no particular order, here are the top moments of my life I would like to revisit…

Old Friends
I wish I could be back seeing Damon and friends at a Friday night rap group. This was when I was first coming out, and I was attending the Friday night rap groups at the LA Gay Center. The meeting would be from 8 to 10, and then we would go out to eat or a nightclub afterwards. Damon was my best friend, who has since died of AIDS. We had a lot of fun times, and serious talks.

Another person I would love to revisit is Kevin. He was part of the rap group too, but I knew Kevin better than most since we dated. He was different when he was in a group and when he was just with me. I remember one day we spent at his apartment, hanging out playing games and eating. It was a great day. Kevin died of AIDS also.

Trying times
Believe it or not, I would love to see or replay some of the difficult times in my life too. If you look at some of entries in my journal, I was going through some terrible stuff emotionally. When I read it now though, I sort of feel disconnected with it. It seems so far away… and hard to imagine I felt so badly.

I remember being in some sort of group therapy of sorts in grammar school. It was run by the husband of one of the teachers and he was a psychologist. I was a very shy person and didn’t have many friends. And I was sensitive too. This was a year or 2 after they thought I had an ulcer. I remember I got upset and threw a pen down and it broke. I don’t’ remember going back after that. I have no idea what was said now.

I would love to see again some of the bullying I endured in high school. Yes, it was hell to go through these times… the name calling and slaps on the back of my head. I was suicidal and prayed that I would change. Was it as bad as I remember, or would I look at it differently now that I know how I turned out?

And finally, I would love to relive some of the moments I shared with my partner. We are still going strong after 24 years…

I would love to see that connection we had on our first date. We went out to the movies, shared a dessert and made out behind one of the buildings in the complex.

We had a wonderful trip to Hawaii over 10 years ago… we had so much fun, seeing the sites, and taking it all in. We took a lot of photos… but it is not the same as being there.

So what moments of your life would you revisit if you could? I would love to hear from you.

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