Here we are a several weeks into Summer 2012, and I have a few things to discuss:
I saw a couple of straight guys (I think they were Middle Eastern) out by the pool sunbathing. One of the guys had his long board shorts pulled all the way up so he could get a tan. If he was wearing Speedos, he wouldn’t have to do something so ridiculous. But because of social pressure, and fear of being seen as gay or different, he decided to do what he did.
I was at a gay event the other day at Dockweiler Beach in Los Angeles. This was the annual “At the Beach” Black Gay Pride event. It was a decent event, not as crowded as past years. One of the things I found interesting was people having layers of clothing. One beautiful black man that had 3 layers on: walking shorts, square-cut swimsuit and then a skimpier suit underneath (which he didn’t even walk around in). He wore the square cut for most the day, but pulled on the board shorts to go to the bathroom. Almost the same thing for a cute white boy. Board shorts with Speedos on underneath which he wore only on his towel. When he went to walk around, he pulled the board shorts back on. C’mon guys! If you got it, show it. After the kilt came off, I had on Speedos till I left — I walked around the beach in them, to the bathroom, and the car even. This is what a real man would do. He is not afraid to show some skin and be seen as sexy.
I go to the gym on a regular. LA Fitness, which used to be Bally’s Total Fitness. Twice now I have been asked in the jacuzzi by a rather large gentlemen if I was married, or had a girlfriend. Each time I have replied that I was single. I am not closeted in the least, but at the time, I felt it was not the time or place to get into it with the guy. Here I am a fit, 40ish white boy with a nipple ring and a Mohawk… I don’t know what he is trying to get at. After he asked me last time, I was getting ready to get out of the jacuzzi, when a straight couple sat down. The woman said “I bet you get a lot of girls with that haircut.” I laughed and said “Not really.” I have thought about it some, and if I am asked again I will tell the truth. There were 6-10 people around at both times, so if it happens I will be coming out to a group. I am a proud gay man, and sometimes people need to be reminded that we exist, and that you can’t just assume that everyone is heterosexual.
Real men still wear Speedos. Little did I know that this would become my most famous and successful posting to date. This latest entry will examine men in the music/entertainment business. We’ll talk about famous guys in Speedos as well as some views on masculinity too.
After cruising around the web the other day, I stumbled upon a new music video by the group LMFAO called “Sexy and You Know It.” The description said that members of the group were shakin’ it in Speedos at Venice Beach. I watched it, and thought it was a very fun video. It is about time that we get to see men shake it in music videos. LMFAO is a relatively new group made up of 2 guys — Redfoo and SkyBlu, both related to industry maven Berry Gordy (son and grandson). They had a big hit this past summer with “Party Rock Anthem.” Redfoo is the lead singer on the latest video, while SkyBlu is seen sporting a cardboard box TV head. I give the guys props for donning Speedos. They seem secure in their sexuality (I assume they are straight) and are having some fun. They don’t seem to care what other people think. Dancing at the club in Speedos would be awesome I am sure. And there are liberal shots of them shaking their “junk.” Be sure to watch the video here.
Seeing this has been my most popular blog post, I am revisiting the topic.
I wanted to mention a few things I saw on the internet regarding this issue:
First, I saw a posting on a message board from this guy who was considering wearing Speedos when he went on vacation toEurope. He was basically asking people for permission to wear them. I say, if you are feeling like doing it, just do it. Who cares what other people think? It is your vacation and you should not conform to what other people think is best for you to do. Like Madonna says “Poor is the man, who pleasure depends on the permission of another.”
I also saw on another message board about someone having a cousin visit from Brazil and going to a water park. The question was shouldI let my cousin wear Speedos at the water park? There were people quoting the park regulations and such saying there were no rules against it. Some people saying to buy the cousin some board shorts, others saying let him decide for himself. Others saying under no circumstance should he wear Speedos that they were too “showy.” Again, let the cousin decide. If you love and accept him as family, it will not matter what he decides to wear.
We all have traits of both of them in each of us. I have met some very queeny straight guys over the years, and some very butch lesbians too. As for me, I am me… I used to worry that I was too this or too that…. Now I just live my life.
Traits typically associated with masculinity include: strength, hard working, insensitive, protector, provider, even violence. Typical female traits are nurturing, sensitivity, family, vulnerability, even weakness. Aren’t you glad we all have both to varying degrees?
Here’s the one my friends have been waiting to hear from me. I love wearing kilts. It all started about 7 years ago. I had seen Utilikilts at various festivals and always liked them. One day I finally I got up the money and the nerve to order one. And I have been a fan ever since. I started off with one and now I have four. I would love to actually have a nice traditional kilt to wear for formal events.
I actually have Scottish blood on my Mom’s side of the family. She has this great photo of my great, great uncle in full battle kilt. So I am carrying on a family tradition I guess you could say.
I am someone who is comfortable in my own skin. But it took some years to get to that point. I always used to think of myself as someone who didn’t fit in, when I so desperately wanted to. As I got older I realized the more I let myself be me, the happier I was.
Yeah, I said it. One of my favorite memories from my teenage years, was the day my Mom picked a spot on the beach for us. This was when my parents used to rent a beach house in Newport Beach, CA for a week. I must have been maybe 17 or so. My mom had gone down earlier and staked out a place. I came along a little while later. In front of our space, there were 2 very hot guys in Speedos. One had dark hair and one had blonde hair. They were very well built, they were probably fitness models. Both of them had on Speedos and they were working on their tans (these were the days before the tanning salons). I saw them reading Playboy and flirting with one of the local girls. The local guys were making fun of them, that they were fags. But from all signs, they were straight. What was the issue here?
These guys were confident and felt comfortable with what they were wearing. So what if the rest of the guys felt the need to wear long baggy shorts? The Speedo guys had the balls to be themselves and not try to conform to what a typical straight male would wear.
The US has always been afraid of displays of male sexuality. I have heard from friends that have been to Europe, South America, Australia that Speedos are no big deal there, it is more often the norm than not. Professional swimmers used to wear the racing suits exclusively when they swam competitively. Now they often wear the full racing body suits and not the typical bikini. Women’s suits have gotten smaller and smaller. I had a friend just get back from Las Vegas and say how popular thong bikinis were for the women. It is about time that guys get to show their stuff too.
Me, I always liked men in Speedos. The athletes on the swim team, the gay guys on the beach with the nice bulges… I just gravitated to them more (the Speedos that is). Wearing them felt more like ME… they make me feel good, make me feel sexy and allow me to express my individuality . I never felt that I had to conform to what society told me to wear, I will go to a water park, a public pool, the gym, a pool party and I will wear my Speedos. Sure I get some looks… but so what. Some stranger has a problem with me being myself? Get a life!
A real man is confident in his own skin. He doesn’t follow trends and he treats his partners with respect. He is comfortable with his sexuality and not afraid to appear sexy. And he definitely could care less what people think about what he wears.
So lather on the sunscreen, put on your Speedo, and be proud that you are a real man. I will see you at the beach!
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