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The Encounter

Life is weird sometimes. Who knows when you will meet someone special. It could be when you are taking the garbage out, at a dinner party, or in my case, it could be at a rock concert. This one happened to take place at the Britney Spear’s concert at the Staples Center in Los Angeles.Concert Action

I was there by myself. I noticed a guy checking me out. I was dressed in concert regiment for me: kilt, tight shirt and Mohawk. He seemed to be following me around. I moved from one area to another, looking at souvenirs and what was offered at the food stands. Just when I thought I lost him, I would see him out of the corner of my eye scoping me out.

He moved near the entrance to the Men’s Room, and motioned for me to follow him. What the fuck?  Are you serious?  Here I was out for a fun night at a concert, and now I had the possibility of hooking up with a hot stranger in a stall at the venue.

Was I crazy to consider it? After all, I had a lover at home and we were getting along well. But he has a sort of lax attitude about outside sex especially when it comes to getting a blow job. Or giving one, ask me how I know…

So I threw caution to the wind and followed the guy into the bathroom. We took over one of the stalls, and started kissing passionately. And then grabbing at each other’s crotches. And the next thing you know, we were taking turns going down on each other, until both of us came. It was a very hot, dangerous and exciting adventure.

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Friends v. F*** Buddies

I have had this title for awhile… So here goes. I don’t have any friends with benefits or a f*** buddy. I never have. Yet for other people, this is nothing. It has happened for them, and will happen again. Is it more prevalent in the gay community or does it exist in the straight community too? (It does if you believe recent romantic comedies).

As a gay man, I long for friendships with other men. Someone I can talk to, hang out with, and share some fun times. Sex has gotten in the way a couple of times — one or the other wanted something more, but the other person didn’t and the friendship fizzled out.

Or we did have sex, and then you think you will be friends with the person at the very least… but that doesn’t happen either. You end up running into that person someplace else, and you both have the feeling “Haven’t I met you before?” Yeah, we had a drunken hook-up at so-and-so’s party…

I am sure straight guys run into the same issues with having female friends. Can a straight guy have a female friend he hasn’t slept with? I’d love to hear from people on this.

I’ve wondered if me being in a relationship has scared off potential friends. Because I am not available, and they want a boyfriend. Maybe there is even mutual attraction, but we know that we can’t act on it, or if we did it wouldn’t be anything more than a temporary fling? I have my life partner.

Also, I know it is sometimes hard being friendly to my partner’s ex’s. Yeah, I know they had sex, and it was in the past, but I wonder if they still want him. And are they being friendly to me just to please him, or do they genuinely like me too.

Recently I have tried to reach out to some past partners… I had fun with them, and I like them as persons. Do they like me too outside of the bedroom? Can my partner handle the friendship, or will he be worried that we will hook up again? What if I want to hook-up again?

Relationships are not easy.. for anyone, gay or straight. They are work… but ultimately they are worth it.

Spice69man is a Los Angeles-based writer and designer. The eBook, A View from the Cheap Seats, can be downloaded from LuluAmazon and the iBookstore. It can be read on any computer, smartphone, or tablet.

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