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Recently Michigan ruled in favor of marriage equality. But like many other states, the ruling has been stayed pending an appeal. But before the weddings were stopped, several hundred same-sex couples were able to get married. And from everything I see, the first ones getting married were long-term couples.

Partners 2013

Partners 2013

So why does it seem that people are afraid of this? Marriage equality will one day be the norm in this country. It is only a matter of when. So instead of being on the right side of history, these states have decided to waste their taxpayer’s dollars on appeals to stop gay marriage from happening. At best, these states are just delaying things. They are not going to win.

What I see — when I see all these same-sex couples lined up for marriage licenses is — LOVE. I see happy people, wanting to commit to their partners. I see families that are being strengthened. I see joy, excitement and huge smiles. I see a segment of society that has been marginalized for far too long, getting some respect. Just like straight people, gays and lesbians are celebrating their love by getting married when they are able to. I see myself here.

While some celebrate, another segment of society is scared and afraid of this development. I just don’t get it. Who are you to deny someone else’s happiness? Who made you judge and jury? And the moral compass for all society?

Again, I want to know how these haters are being harmed by someone they don’t know getting married to a person of the same sex? I get that people have their religious objections to same-sex marriage. But wouldn’t your time be better spent praying for these people than by passing/trying to hold on to outdated laws/rules?

Maybe these people are stuck in bad straight marriages, and want to deny other people happiness, because they are not happy in their own lives. Maybe they are secretly gay themselves, and not yet accepting of their inclination. Maybe it makes them feel superior over others that they don’t understand.

I live my life as an open book. And when people find out that I have been in a relationship for over 25 years with the same man, people are shocked. You see, gay people can and do have long-term relationships. I wish I knew that when I was coming out, but I didn’t. I had the impression that I was going to be living a lonely life filled with a bunch of meaningless hook-ups. Boy, was I gladly wrong! I have found someone to share my life with, and we are as strong as we ever were.

We are looking forward to our wedding in the near future.

KiltManinSoCal is a Los Angeles-based writer and designer. Be sure to check out the latest T-Shirts for sale here, including Marriage Equality and Real Men Wear Kilts lines. They make great gifts for friends, family and loved ones.


Comments on: "Why Are People So Afraid of Gay Couples?" (3)

  1. Marcelo Castilho Rogedo said:

    Nice article , Daniel. Here in Brazil, people are going to the Court to get the right to get married. I’ve seen men and women doing it. And once I could see in the news, a church with hundreds of couples saying their words there. “Yes, I do”…some States dont accept it yet, and people try to appeal in the court. But the idea of being gay in Brazil got better. Of course, homophobia exists all over the world, prejudice….but as the years passed I could realize that people are respecting us much more. Nowadays we have magazines, travel agencies, and other things that respect us much more. And people are understanding that what matters is the love….it does not matter if it is men-men or women-women or men-women….remembering Madonna’s lines…..”Love makes the world go round….”

  2. said:

    Excellent article, Dan.


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