I came out of the closet a long time ago, I knew by my late teens that I was gay. It wouldn’t be until years later that my family knew about it. This has been an amazing year for gay rights. More and more individuals are coming out, we are getting some respect from the White House, and we can now serve in the military openly.
I saw a headline that read “So Anderson Cooper is Gay? Does it Matter?” Yes it does. Let me tell you why.
When I was dealing with coming to terms with myself, I didn’t know anyone who was gay. I didn’t know anyone in school, or in my family. I don’t remember seeing anyone on TV (except for those who seemed to be very troubled). I felt so alone. You were primed to think you were going to lead a lonely, miserable life as a gay person.
Those were the media views, then you had religion to deal with also. As a Catholic, you were supposed to abstain from sex until you were married (to a person of the opposite sex). Gays were “welcomed” to the church, but we are told to be celibate and abstain from having sex. Not to mention the guilt factor. I prayed and prayed that God would change me. I didn’t want to be this way.
A young person can not say that they haven’t heard of someone who is gay…. We have gay actors, athletes, singers, politicians, and more. These are real people, not stereotypes. People that are leading happy lives — whether they are single or in a relationship, some with kids even. Being gay has not stopped them from having a good life, it is just a part of who they are.
I am thankful I came out, and grateful to have the life that I have. I know my life did get better… so come on out, and tell the world about the real you. You’ll be glad you did.
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