Like my hero Madonna, I have tried a lot of different looks with my hair over the years. I had bigger 80’s hair like a lot of people. I tried parting it in the middle and on the left side. I have colored it: blonde, brown, black and even red. In my 20’s I started to get my first gray hairs — what can I say it runs in the family. I love to tell people that I have only known my Mom with gray hair… I had to see photos of her to see that she used to have black hair. So now I am salt and pepper… brown on top, lots of gray on the sides and in my beard too.
I have had feathered cuts, step cuts, Caesar, flat-top, military, faux hawk, Mohawk and even bald. I like short hair on other guys and often wear my hair short. My partner and I invested in a hair trimmer and he often cuts my hair for me. A buzz with a 0-2 trimmer looks great.
I’m in my late 40’s now, but my family HATES the Mohawk. To them, I say too bad. I have had a Mohawk for the past 5 summers. It usually starts as more of a fauxhawk and then gets more extreme as the summer rolls on. My Mom is like “It’s not appropriate for work” (they don’t care Mom), “It’s strange or weird.” (not to me, it looks nice and sexy). Have you been the mall or a gym lately, I am far from being the only guy who has one. It is pretty mainstream now even. I see a lot of kids and babies with Mohawks and faux hawks now. What is the issue here? The haircut does not change ME… I am still the same person. I am an artist by trade, I am open to being seen as edgy or artsy. To me, my Mom doesn’t have a say in this issue at all.
Now my sister chimes in and tells me how much she (and my brother) as well both my parents hate it. That’s too bad… I am not changing it. I feel strong, confident and sexy with it. I like what I see in the mirror. I like me! She thinks I am being childish to not listen to what my family says. No, to me being childish is telling a 47 year old how they should cut their hair! I don’t live under their roof and they don’t pay my rent. I could care less how they do their hair… why do they care so much about mine or lack there of?
I wasn’t given a choice with having salt and pepper hair. If I had been asked by God, I would have chosen bald. Honestly! My 2 favorite hairstyles of the past year are Mohawk and bald. My parents don’t like that one either! I love how my eyes look when I have a shaved head. And from what I know, I have a good shaped head too that works with a shaved look.
So the fall is coming and I plan to be bald for a bit. I was shaved and shiny for the holidays last year and it was a nice feeling. Then I grew it back from about January to May, cut the Mohawk and now I am ready to start the cycle again!
Anyone who has followed my blog knows that I am big on being your own person, celebrating your individuality and creativity. As Madonna says “Express Yourself!.” — with your personal style, wardrobe, haircut, etc.